I read a blog post over at World Magazine's blog related to the recent Russian adoption fiasco , where a family sent an adopted child back to Russia. This story was about another family who had managed to keep their adopted children, also Russian, instead of giving up. These children were all under 5 years old when they were brought into their new family. Now-- Ruggieroās younger daughter is 17 and still screams. Ruggiero wrote poignantly that she doesnāt really have any real relationship with her older daughter whoās 19. Their 20-year-old son left home and lives on his own; he doesnāt communicate with the family. āThere isnāt any doubt that we love them,ā Ruggiero wrote, ābut I think itās hard for them to understand what love means.ā I continued through the story, and started reading the comments. Some people mentioned something called reactive attachment disorder , which is apparently a big problem with children adopted from orphanages in Eastern Europe. I never knew this...