A question has been running through my mind the last several days, or months or years: Are some people's personalities simply less likely ever to fall in love?
I wonder this because in the cursory reading I've done about those with my personality type (which I'm fairly certain is conveyed by the Myers-Briggs letters INTP) I've seen that people with these characteristics tend not to do relationships easily (or well). Friendships are hard enough, but romantic relationships tax us such that sometimes we wonder whether they're worth bothering about at all (as one website notes).
I firmly believe I have never been "in love" and I sometimes doubt if I'm even capable of that kind of love... and it's rather disheartening. Because at the same time, I feel (not think, feel) that a committed romantic relationship constitutes an emotional dimension I am completely ignorant of. And if I ever do fall in love, it'll be completely new territory... I'm slightly afraid of how I might react.
Now back to your regularly scheduled commentary on links and small-town living. Carry on. :)
I wonder this because in the cursory reading I've done about those with my personality type (which I'm fairly certain is conveyed by the Myers-Briggs letters INTP) I've seen that people with these characteristics tend not to do relationships easily (or well). Friendships are hard enough, but romantic relationships tax us such that sometimes we wonder whether they're worth bothering about at all (as one website notes).
I firmly believe I have never been "in love" and I sometimes doubt if I'm even capable of that kind of love... and it's rather disheartening. Because at the same time, I feel (not think, feel) that a committed romantic relationship constitutes an emotional dimension I am completely ignorant of. And if I ever do fall in love, it'll be completely new territory... I'm slightly afraid of how I might react.
Now back to your regularly scheduled commentary on links and small-town living. Carry on. :)
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Also, isn't fear of the unknown normal? Pretty sure most people's first (or first few) romantic relationships were just testing the waters on how in the world to interact with the opposite sex in a different-than-just-friends way (or at all in some cases). They just happen at different ages, the earlier they are the less meaning they have.
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Fear of the unknown? Definitely normal. But still a consideration. And to flip your statement on its head, the later different-than-just-friends relationships happen, the more meaning they have - and the less you desire to mess them up, see? :P
Wesleigh - I find it funny that relationships are among your favorite things to talk about, lol. I just checked out the blog! I see three posts and I'm pretty interested in following it. I had actually thought about putting something similar together myself but I'd much rather be a guest poster occasionally. Less work. ;) I actually already have a post or two you're welcome to cross-post if you like. I can shoot you an email or tweet or something. I have a couple of ideas for you.
Indicating that by this time they have much more meaning than say age 22, so all I have to do is wait a few more years to figure that part out? :-)
Oh, by this time I still am not entirely sure of the relative meaning a more-than-just-friendship has, but it intrigues me, of course! :P